Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Also known as The Golden Rule. Is it just me, or is this more of a Golden Suggestion these days?
Over the last few weeks - since before Christmas- I have found that what used to be known as "common courtesy" is not that common. Simple things, like a "thank you" for a gift, a timely response to an invitation, just don't happen. I know that these people would like an expression of gratitude or a prompt response so why is it that they cannot respond in kind? As much as I dislike to, I've felt the need to call people out on this. And the really sad part of this is these are people who should know better. They are not children.
Further to this, I wonder why people treat others the same way that they were treated even though they themselves despised that treatment? This one completely confounds me. If I have been treated in a particular way that has made me feel less than special, I cannot in good conscience inflict that upon another. I'm being purposefully cryptic on this one. Suffice it to say that I just learned that someone who has made me feel, well, unimportant and worthless, was treated in the same way. But instead of resolving to be different, simply duplicated that behaviour that made them feel unimportant and worthless. I resolve to stop that behaviour. Though if I did try to repeat it, I know I would be called out on it - guaranteed. And I should be.
Courtesy, as defined by Merriam-Webster:
1 a : behavior marked by polished manners or respect for others : courteous behavior b : a courteous and respectful act or expression
3 a : high or special regard : esteem b : the quality or state of being esteemed
1 archaic : worth, value 2 archaic : opinion, judgment 3 : the regard in which one is held; especially : high regard <the esteem we all feel for her>
So, courtesy is behaviour that makes another feel that they are valued. And isn't that what we all want - to feel valued? I know I do. So, let's start by valuing our loved ones, our families, our friends. Let's start a new cycle of courtesy.
Think of the kindness you wish others would show you; do the same for them. Luke 6:31 (The Voice)